21 Warning Signs

Listed below are some common warning signs that a person is or may turn out to be abusive to his or her intimate partner. Answering “Yes” to a question does not mean a person is abusive. However, if any of the questions below are true about you or your partner, you should be cautious about continuing the relationship.

Warning Signs
True of Me
True of My Partner
Abused by parent    
Grew up in home where parent was abused by the other parent    
Gets very serious with boyfriend/girlfriend very quickly in relationship    
Comes on very strong, is extremely charming and overly smooth talker    
Is extremely jealous    
Isolates partner from support systems- won’t let partner see friends, family or have outside activities or makes them feel guilty about it    
Blames others for one’s own misbehavior    
Abuses drugs or alcohol    
Has unrealistic expectations, like expecting partner to meet all of one’s needs    
Is overly sensitive-acts ‘hurt’ when not getting one’s way, takes offense when others disagree with an opinion    
Has ever been cruel to animals    
Has ever abused children    
Has ever hit a boyfriend or girlfriend    
Has ever threatened violence, even if it wasn’t a ‘serious’ threat    
Calls partner names, puts him/her down or curses at him/her    
Is extremely moody, and switches quickly from being very nice to exploding in anger    
If a male, believes women are inferior to men and should obey them    
Is intimidating, for example: threatening body language, punching walls or breaking objects    
Holds partner against his/her will to keep them from walking away or leaving the room    

For more information about the warning signs of an abusive person, please call Advocates of Ozaukee at 1-877-375-4034.