Evaluate Your Relationship

Below is a list of questions to help you better evaluate your relationship. You can fill in the blanks for your own purposes, the answers will not be saved, nor will Advocates ever see them. There is a printable version of this evaluation at the bottom of this page.

Questions to Think About

Write a list of ways you think your boyfriend/girlfriend has been or is being disrespectful or abusive towards you.

What does your boyfriend/girlfriend gain through his/her behavior?

How has the abuse made you feel?

 

How does or has the abuse affected you- how has it affected your confidence, your relationships, and your life in general?

 

How have the negative messages that your partner has given you made you feel about yourself?

 

How have you been able to not let the abuse overwhelm you completely?
If you break up:
What good points/ what would you gain?
What bad points/ what would you lose?

 

If you stay in the relationship:
What good points/ what would you gain?
What bad points/ what would you lose?

What's the worst fear you have if you leave?

What’s your worst fear if you stay?

Who can you talk to who could help?

What personal strengths do you have to help you keep going?

What are some steps you will take to change this situation?

What can you do to feel safer (either in the relationship or after breaking up).

What things can you do for yourself to feel stronger?

For more information, please call Advocates of Ozaukee at 1-877-375-4034

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