your safety seriously. If you feel unsafe or threatened by your partner, think
of ways to protect yourself.
If you are
still with him/her:
You might not feel able to break up with your partner at the moment. But there
are still things you can do to feel safer in the relationship.
- Tell friends
or family and get them to help protect you by being around when your partner
- Try not to
be alone with him/her.
- Think of
ways to stay in control of the situation. For example, if you are out, arrange
another way of getting home rather than going with him/her, or try not to
drink too much or use other drugs. Take extra money in case you need to
call a taxi or use the telephone.
- Have an excuse
prepared so you can leave quickly if you feel uncomfortable or scared.
- Have a code
word or signal that you can use to get friends to help you.
- If you go
to school or work with your partner, you could talk to a teacher or a workmate
you trust to help protect you.
or write down emergency numbers you can call if you feel you are in danger.
- If you want
to break up with him/her but are scared about his/her reaction, you could
consider telling him/her over the phone, rather than in person or break
up with your partner in a public place.
have broken up with him/her:
You might still
have contact with your ex-partner, especially if you are at the same school,
workplace or have mutual friends. He/she may still try to contact you after
you have split up. You could try the suggestions above, and also think about
- Have an answering
machine or someone else take messages from him/her.
- Arrange a
safe place to stay where he/she can’t control you.
- Talk to someone
about what you could do legally to protect yourself.
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